The Condition of our States

   Each of our states may be either healthy and functioning well or may be functioning in a way that prevents us from being all we can be.
 
There are four conditions our Resource states may be in:
 
 
 

    1.  Normal Functioning

    • Functions with a positive role to the benefit of other states and the person.  It is the purpose of Resource therapy to help all states to be normal functioning.

 

 

 

  

    2. Vaded (unwanted feelings)

States that hold negative, unprocessed emotions from the past. These states may be Vaded in four ways:

1)      Vaded with Fear: (Phobias, PTSD, Panic, situational fear)

2)      Vaded with Rejection: (Feeling worthless or unlovable, high need for approval)

3)      Vaded with Confusion: (Rumination, confusion)

4)      Vaded with Disappointment: (Depression, Despair)

Vaded states cause psychological issues in two ways, as being:

1)     Vaded Conscious states: The state surfaces with its feelings of angst causing the person to feel emotionalism, anxiety, or have feelings of worthlessness, confusion or despair.

2)      Vaded Avoided States: Vaded states that come into or near the surface then are driven from the surface by avoidance behaviour. This behaviour is often regretted by the person.

 

 

        3. Retro (unwanted behaviour)

    States that carry out learned behaviour that the person regrets.  There are two types of Retro States:

    1)      Retro Original States: These states learned in childhood how to benefit the person in a way that other people find offensive. (Pouting, Anti-Social behaviour, Rage, Passive-Aggressive behaviour)

    2)      Retro Avoiding States: These states carry out the behaviour that protects the person from the feelings of the Avoided Vaded states.  (Addictive behaviour, OCD behaviour, self-harming behaviour, eating disorder behaviour)

     
     
     

          4. Conflicted (States that do not understand the value of the other)

        •  States that demonstrate or advocate behaviour that other states do not agree with to the point the inner conflict causes anxiety to the person.

       

       
       
       
       

            5. Dissonant (Not the best Resource to be Conscious)

          •  States that are in the Conscious at the wrong time. These states do not want to be Conscious during some of the times they have been, and they are happy when a more appropriate Resource is found to come into the Conscious during the times when they feel incompetent. 

         More Context:

        Resource States: Neuro-physical personality states created by the repetition of returning to the same coping behaviour numerous times. Most of these states are formed during childhood or early adolescence when varied coping behaviours are needed.

        The movement toward Mental Health is the movement for Vaded States Retro States, Conflicted States, and Dissonant States to achieve a Normal Condition.

        We want all our states to be normal functioning.  This means the state is operating well both with our other Resource states internally and is operating well externally with other people.  The state is not causing us trouble. Most people have a work state that is normal functioning. Resource therapy is a process of helping state to become normal functioning.
        A Vaded state is a state that has experienced a trauma or something negative and has not processed it.  A Vaded State is the tender spot in our psyche.  If we are reactive, it is the Vaded State that is coming out.  A Vaded State can cause us to react emotionally to a life situation in a way we don't want.  Vaded States feel out of control when they are out, and they are the cause of escape behaviors, such as addictive symptoms.  Vaded States need to gain resolution so we no longer have a need escape from their negative feelings, and so they no longer give us a feeling of being out of control.
        Retro States are states that have learned a behavior that we do not want.  Retro States carry out Addictive Behavior. Reacting in an unwanted angry manner usually is the result of a Retro state coming out. This state may have learned in childhood that anger is a means of protection or a way to get what is wanted. These states need to learn to come out only when their behavior is appropriate, or to learn to alter their behavior to a degree that it becomes appropriate.
        Conflicted states are states that feel at war with each other internally.  They may hate each other (I hate myself when I am like that) or they may be in severe conflict over actions. One state may want to work and another may want to rest.  These states need to learn the value of each other and to be able to communicate and compromise.  It is appropriate for states to have different opinions to consider, for example, when buying a new car.  One state may be aware of the budget and another state may be connected to fun and appreciation.  It is not appropriate for the conflict between states to be a problem for the person so the person feels not a peace internally.
        Dissonant states are states that would otherwise be normal, but they come into the Conscious at the wrong time. They cause sporting slumps, poor exam results, and a feeling of being in the wrong skin.  The treatment for Dissonant state behavior is to find more appropriate Resource States to bring to the Conscious at preferred times.
        A 'Normal' state will not be Vaded, Retro, or conflicted.  It is possible for other states to share a combination of conditions.  For example Retro states are almost always also conflicted with other states who do not appreciate their actions.  The person gets angry then feels bad about it later.  Resource Therapy can help states become Normal, freeing the person to have a higher level of inner peace.
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